Max does have a point … but the percentage unaffected is very low though … why i said most and not all … as far as Kai’s point most ARE problematic cases period whether they are treated by a doctor or not … most cases go untreated and almost always cause problems in forming healthy relationships.

The way the brain works is things that are traumatizing as a kid actually become attractive later on in our sexual development … that’s why so many kids that are molested grow up to be molesters or are attracted to bad people who just take advantage of them and are victimized over and over if they don’t get treatment to get there “attraction compass” fixed.

It’s a serious problem that shouldn’t be dismissed with a spaghetti metaphor.

If you only ask psychiatrists you only get the problematic cases.

it is like asking in an italian restaurant who likes italian food. bad idea to do statistics.

While I understand what you are saying, and I do see what you are referring to, directly, as I work in psych, I also believe that this is somthing that cannot be generalized. There are 14 year olds who have sex and it does not harm them, they may or may not be different growing up because of this, but who is to say in a bad or good way. It depends on a mixture of the person’s gentics and environment, their personality, etc, whether or not sex with a peer or someone older at a young age is going to be bad.

anyway, that’s my two cents

Ask any psychiatrist or addiction specialist that treats people for compulsive/addictive behavior. They see this sort of thing day in and day out and it takes years a therapy to correct.

Anyone who has sex with a 14 y/o is nothing short of predatory.

sorry for my english but im french canadian:) Amicalement! Ned.